I Wish Someone Had Told Me How Harmful Judgmental Thoughts Can Be

Today, we at SRC began a new message series titled I Wish Someone Had Told Me…

This series will be focusing on topics such as, I Wish Someone Had Told Me…

  • How harmful judgmental thoughts can be. 
  • What forgiveness is, what it isn’t, and how to practice it. 
  • How much envy impacts our lives. 
  • How much shame impacts our lives. 
  • What it actually means to live in the Kingdom of God. 
  • That not all anger is bad or sinful. 
  • How to grieve. 

As I (Justin) mentioned in the message this morning (July 26), this first message on the topic of Judgment was difficult to write. I felt like there was so much more that could’ve been said. For those interested in digging a little deeper into this topic, here are some steps you can take this week.

  1. Follow through on the end-message questions to consider. Give 10-15 minutes a day to follow-through on your answers to #1 and #3. Also consider specific ways a mentor may be of help, and consider contacting one or two individuals to ask them if they would be willing to serve in this way.

Questions to Consider: 

In what ways will I begin to practice thinking and speaking encouraging thoughts about others? 

Who can I invite to be a mentor in my life to help me be accountable in the areas that matter most? 

Who is somebody I know who is hurting right now? How can I serve them?


  1. Take the opportunity to study out the topic of judgmental thoughts on your own.

For example, the NLT Life Application Study Bible provides the following references for judging others:

  • don’t be quick to judge (Acts 11:2-18)
  • God’s standards versus society’s (1 Samuel 16:7, Luke 3:2)
  • how God judges others (Psalm 1:1)
  • avoid double standards when (Isaiah 11:3-5)
  • we’re experts at telling others what to do (Matthew 5:19)
  • why it should be left to God (Matthew 13:40-43, 1 Corinthians 4:5)
  • we cannot know who will be in God’s Kingdom (Matthew 13:47-49)
  • can’t judge others’ salvation (Matthew 16:27)
  • use compassion and forgiveness first (John 8:7)
  • difference between judging others and dealing with their sin (1 Corinthians 5:12)

See if you can find additional references in your Study Bible of choice, and then think through the following questions:

If I were to be completely honest with myself, how regularly do I judge others?

Which 2 or 3 of these verses stick out the most to me? Why is that?

Abraham Lincoln once said, “I don’t like that man. I must get to know him better.” In what ways may God be inviting me to grow in my knowledge and understanding of those who look, think, act, worship, and/or live different than me? Be specific. 

In what ways is God inviting me to change my judgmental thoughts, attitudes, and behaviors? Be specific.


This topic is a challenging one, as we’re each confronted with something deep within ourselves that God desires to refine. But just as gold and silver needs to have all impurities removed to increase its purpose, God desires to refine each of us so that we may better fulfill His purpose in our lives. His refinement transforms us into something stronger than we were before. May you continue to grow in Him this week.

Be blessed!

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