DAY 4: Focus on the Positives
Think about a time when somebody said something or did something that really bothered you. In general, is it easier for you to remember that one thing they did, or is it easier for you to remember many of the positive things they said or did?
Whether it’s an aspect of our broken world or perhaps just a part of our culture, it seems easier to remember negative experiences than positive ones. In fact, counselors and therapists today are in agreement that there needs to be a 7:1 ratio of positive experiences vs. negative ones in order to manage tension well. In other words, you need to offer seven encouraging statements to others for every one disagreement you may have with them, in order for you to be able to navigate through a disagreement in a healthy way.
For king Uzziah, he had done a lot of really good things for the nation of Judah. He was remembered as a king who did what was right in the eyes of the Lord. But the one moment his pride got the best of him was also something he was remembered for.
As you read today, consider this: Is it easier for you to focus on the positive or the negative things people say and/or do?
READING & JOURNALING:
Is it easier for you to focus on the positive or the negative things people say and/or do?
How difficult do you find it to share appreciations or words of encouragement to others?
Will you commit to sharing 7 x more appreciations or words of encouragement than constructive criticism with others over the next week?
F260 READING: (A Scripture Reading Plan for Busy Believers)
Read: Exodus 28 & 29
Journal: Write it out. Following the pattern from 7 Arrows Page (click here) what did you learn from today’s reading?
PRAYER:
Heavenly Father, I know that I had others who loved me deeply throughout my childhood, but I confess that I haven’t really learned how to share appreciations well. Help me to grow in sharing appreciations and words of encouragement with others. I pray in Jesus’ name. Amen.
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