the helpful marriage: marriage as holiness

Last week, we at SRC began a new series on the subject of Marriage. It’s a subject I’m passionate about. Very passionate about. Why? Because the marriage relationship is the one relationship we have on earth that most closely resembles our relationship with Jesus. (Oh, how I wish we were taking more than three weeks on such an important subject!)

Anyway, last week’s message was on “The Helpless Marriage”, and if you haven’t listened to it yet, it’s currently available to download right here. Go on…go and have a listen.

This week, we’re moving forward to “The Helpful Marriage.”

Generally speaking, a helpful marriage seems pretty solid from the outside. It has a husband and wife who get along pretty well. They take care of the family. Pay the bills. And are overall…helpful toward one another. That’s something every marriage should have, right?

But there’s something missing within this type of relationship, too. Sure, things looks good on the outside, but the truth is that neither spouse opens up and shares their life dreams or fears with their partner. It’s even possible that secrets may be being kept. Both individuals may struggle with various weaknesses (or sins) in their lives, and they come to the mutual agreement of, “If you don’t talk about these things in my life I won’t mention these other things in your life.”  They move forward in life with the mindset of, “As long as things look good from the outside, and as long as we help one another raise the family, that’s all that really matters.”

As you know, there’s more to a healthy marriage than looking good. Much more.

One aspect of a healthy marriage is friendship. This was the focal point of the message last week.

Another aspect of a healthy marriage is that the marriage is built on holiness. I know that’s not a word most people use in everyday conversations, but if the marriage relationship truly is a reflection of one’s relationship with Christ, then holiness is the foundation upon which the marriage relationship must be constructed.  Read that one more time just to let it sink in.

If the marriage relationship truly is a reflection of one’s relationship with Christ, then holiness is the foundation upon which the marriage relationship must be constructed.

This weekend we’ll be discussing three areas of holiness within marriage, giving some specific examples as to how each one may be applied within your current marriage.  Until then, feel free to discuss the following questions with your spouse.

  1. What do you think “holiness” looks like in a marriage?
  2. Do you currently think there are any areas of our marriage where we are “helpful” but not “holy”?
  3. How can I help you better become the man/woman God has made you to be this week?

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Questions or comments?  Feel free to let me know in the comment section below.

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